For people with competitive personalities, their competitiveness can get out of hand when it leads to boasting or belittling others.  Some people may think the competitiveness itself is to blame and ask, is it ok for Christians to be competitive?  Or is it only bad to be overcompetitive?  Are there better ways to compete?  In Romans 12:10, the apostle Paul gives us one example of where we should be as competitive as we possibly can:

“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.”

When Paul says we should “outdo one another” he’s setting up a competition among believers, using a Greek word that means “to lead the way for others”[1]  Paul is saying we should be trying our best to show more honor to others than others do.  It’s a competition where everybody wins but doesn’t require participation trophies.  We aren’t competing in worldly ways, to win honor for ourselves, but to honor others, or to esteem others as being of great value to us.

But also, I think Paul is referring to what came before in the verse: “Love one another with brotherly affection”.  In this phrase, Paul combines two Greek words for love: one that means love for our figurative brothers, or people like us, and another that means love for our literal brothers, or close relatives.  In the context of the church, this means to love other Christians as you love your own blood relatives.  This makes sense because our Christian brothers and sisters are all permanent relations in Christ – maybe more permanent than our actual blood relatives.

Back to the full verse:

“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.”

Together, these phrases are telling us to do our best to love our fellow Christians as well as we possibly can, competing to do it better than others and to lead by example.  We are to honor them because they are Christ’s, not because we get something in return.

So, yes, its ok to be competitive.  Sometimes it’s even encouraged!  Consider how to outdo others in love and showing honor today.  Do your best to win today.

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[1] Strong’s Dictionary